February 11 2019

Sex Change Regrets: After Becoming Transgender, Teacher Says ‘It Was a Mistake’

Fourteen years ago, school teacher Herb McCaffrey made the local news by deciding to live as a female with the…

Fourteen years ago, school teacher Herb McCaffrey made the local news by deciding to live as a female with the name Kerri. After much soul-searching, however, this teacher says, “Since then I have come to the realization that I made a mistake. I am living my life as honestly as I can. I am working as ‘Ms. McCaffrey.’

I have learned to love both the reading and writing of poetry. I try to be as graceful in life as I can. I put my heart and soul into being the best I can be. God is there for me each step of the way – but only by being totally honest in prayer.”

Kerri’s kind of transparency is rare because it is uncompromising in knowing “God is there for me.” Kerri says this comes from the core of the teacher’s soul, knowing it is time to set the record right with God.

Kerri’s Story

I have come to know Kerri over the last year or so, spending time together and finding Kerri to be a bright, honest, sensitive, and caring person who now realizes changing genders was a mistake. Kerri originally contacted me because Kerri found my website, and we became friends as a result of having much in common with our transgender journeys.

Kerri transitioned at age 41; I transitioned at age 42. We both were heterosexual men who had married wonderful women and had great careers. We were each a father to two children and loved our family. We were not homosexual – our struggles were with our gender persona.

Kerri was looking for answers about the time Renee Richards captivated the world playing tennis in the U.S. Open as a transsexual woman and felt this was a new direction in life. Like Kerri, Richards later had regrets, as The New York Times revealed in a 2007 article titled “The Lady Regrets.” (Read More)